Trapped in a ‘dysfunctional system’

When I came to the UK in 2001, I was happy to start a new life, new country and experience something culturally different.

I paid little attention to the stamp on my visa and focused on my goals of achieving everything from buying a house, going back to university to further my studies to having a child and learning how to drive, my plan was to achieve these all within five years, so when I had achieved all these within a space of five years, I thought the sky was not even a limit as to what the next years would bring.

Unfortunately, life has a way of throwing a storm at us, in 2006 just five months before I was due to apply for indefinite leave to remain in the UK having spent five years on the work permit, I made the most important decision in my life and that was to leave an abusive marriage, to start a new life with my daughter who was two years old at the time and to cut the strings attached to the threats of being a dependant of someone else who has done me a huge favour by bringing me to this country, I decided that I was going to detach from ownership and mental torture, and that is where I was wrong, “I moved from the frying pan, straight to the fire”

The experience of No Recourse To Public Funds, is a reminder of a life in South Africa when I was growing up, whereby I had no rights because of the colour of my skin, everyday in Northern Ireland I am reminded of that childhood experience, and it suddenly dawned on me that not only I am discriminated, but my child too.

My child was born in Northern Ireland and should have the same rights that other children that are white born here have, like Citizenship, safeguarding, protection, family life and have a home, school and social life…however she has had to endure the same suffering as her mother, not because I am an undocumented migrant, but because I made a choice of leaving an abusive marriage that guaranteed her all of these rights, it is as if these rights are depending on a man, he is the one in control of Immigration Laws, and therefore in control of not just my life but my daughter’s as well and the Government has no say in the matter, as a matter of fact reinforce the suffering and torture to both of us.

No Recourse To Public Funds strip you of your identity into case, a statistic a case number, not human. It closes open doors; it puts your life on hold and brings you to your abuser’s door to beg for mercy.

It sees you homeless, jobless, and rips the very fabric which this Country’s values are based on and the very Human Rights Act that you rely on can do nothing for you.

You can sign a campaign created by Nandi Jola to put an end to “No Recourse to Public Funds” here.



  1. Séamus Fox Jun 23, 2015 - 10:25 PM

    I know Nandi personally, she is a talented wordsmith and a very humble and wise woman, her daughter and her have as much right to be here as anyone else be they British, Irish or any other Nationality. Human Beings come from Planet Earth and Northern Ireland is part of Planet Earth.
    Humans have been migrating all across this ball of Muck and Water for as long as there have been Human beings. The piece of land we are living on now was EMPTY around 10 000 years ago, it didn’t belong to anyone so in reality no one actually owns it. You can say it’s Irish or British or whatever your tiny mind would identify it as but it is just a little bit of the Earth.
    Nationality is a Human state of mind used to divide and control. We’re Humans first and foremost.
    I know a few asylum seekers and they’re just people. I work with them, have helped some of them and done gigs with them. They smile and cry the same, they feel the same. They may look and speak a little differently but they’re people, Humans, call them what you will but since most of those who talk about “Foreigners” rarely get to be friendly with folks from other countries how can they judge?
    How can anyone judge people who they don’t know?
    If you allow it to be so that any Human being can be treated differently just because they come from somewhere different or look different or act different or love different then you are creating the conditions for intolerance to thrive and you really shouldn’t be surprised if it exists should you?
    If others choose to be intolerant that’s their problem not yours. If you think it is acceptable to treat others badly because you read a news report or heard a story from someone who knew someone who seen something then you’re not only hateful you’re probably stupid as well.
    If others choose to be d**ks that’s not an excuse for you to do the same. Remember what yer Ma told you about sticking yer hand in a fire? She was right!
    Live and let live.

  2. Molly Bloom Jun 24, 2015 - 04:31 PM

    So-so true. And so sad to see that it seems to “work” everywhere the same way.

  3. Tobi Asbussau Aug 01, 2015 - 10:39 PM

    Great info. Lucky me I ran across your site by accident
    I’m going see what other goodies there are on here to read about!

  4. Margareta Kabcon Nov 28, 2015 - 11:33 PM

    I have emailed this post to all my friends, I hope they find it as interesting as I do.

  5. Fernando Cunningham Aug 17, 2016 - 07:21 AM

    Great article. I’m facing several of these issues also..

  6. Willie Boyce Aug 17, 2016 - 06:14 PM

    I adore reading through a write-up that can make people think.

  7. Paul Hansclyd Aug 18, 2016 - 05:51 PM

    My brother suggested I look up affinity. He was once entirely right.
    Great piece – bit hard to handle though that this is the situation here


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